june 23, 2009 – i’m grateful for the man, the girl and the friends. little kisses and i love you’s, shared ice cream cones and the stillness of an empty house in the middle of the afternoon.
june 23, 2009 – charitable deeds just wasn’t working for me, for a multitude of reasons. it seemed just a little too “braggy” and little too forced. charity is a wonderful ideal to try to achieve, but i’ve found that most people don’t like to feel like they’ve received “charity”. and things don’t need charity. for me, gratitude means much more – taking the time to notice the everday gifts that come my way.
March 5, 2009 – see my post for today for what i did. i actually enjoyed doing this – the portion of the cleaned beach looked great, the girl saw me working hard at it and offered to help next time, when she and her dad aren’t treasure hunting and some other beach visitors saw someone contributing to the world around her. i work on the idea that stuff like this is catching!
march 1, 2009 – ended up at the library sunday – mike was so kind to take the girl and give me some free time to browse and wander, and i had a delightful time. our library happens to be where the down and out congregate to get warm, check their email, sleep safely and maybe just feel safe. i never quite know how to be around the homeless, and feel bad about it. so i stopped and had a conversation with a man that looked like he hadn’t had anyone be kind to him for a long time. wasn’t a deep conversation, just hi, nice day today if it would stop raining, what are you reading, there? lasted all of 5 minutes. but you know, the man actually thanked me for not pretending like he wasn’t there as i said goodbye. and you know, it’s not that hard to share a smile and a hello with strangers. any stranger.
i don’t know if this qualifies as a charitable deed. to me it’s more like i’ve added a bit of humanness back into my life. but here it is.
Feb. 25th, 2009 – started blankets for the mountain baby blanket project. if you haven’t heard of this go over here and see what the power of one woman with kindness in her heart and a good idea in her head can do. examples like this help me realize, that, yes, one person can make a difference. and this in turn, gives me the courage to learn how to make a difference. so the goal is for rachael and i to finish 2 or 3 toddler size blankets by the middle of march.
we went to costco today. it was also pouring rain today. so you can imagine the mood of the customers……that’s right – rude, walking around with a sense of entitlement, and definitely not STAYING RIGHT!!! so my charitable deed today was to be pleasant. to everyone. no matter what. and you know, i think i spread a little cheer. made some people smile. helped clean up a spill. and what could have turned into a mood wrecker, turned into a trip to costco that changed my outlook on how my mood/attitude can affect the world around me. and with every smile, the girl started to catch on, and we ended up working the crowd. on the way home, these wise words came out – “mama, we made people happier today, didn’t we?”. why yes, we did.
i have been so inspired by jen over at a year of living charitably. for the last year or so i’ve been trying to come up with ideas that the girl and i can do together, without much success. the lack of success stems from always looking at big charitable projects, that come with a big time commitment price tag. it never occurred to me that doing one small thing everyday would not only allow us to contribute in meaningful ways, but also allow me to model charitable behavior for the girl and the rest of the family.
this page is dedicated to living more charitably and documenting the small kindnesses we are learning to include in our everday lives.